What “private” should mean
- Your partner cannot see whether you liked, loved, or passed on an individual name before they respond.
- A rejected name does not become a debate; only shared positive reactions rise into the mutual list.
- An invite connects the intended two people rather than publishing a list to friends or search engines.
- Personal inputs have specific boundaries. NameMatch uses surname and avoid-list choices to rank a round but does not save them to your account.
- Either person can return later and restore the active couple session after signing in.
How the NameMatch flow works
Start alone, without a performance
Swipe through a first round and react quickly. You do not need an account just to discover whether the deck fits your taste.Save the names worth comparing
At the end of a round, NameMatch summarizes what you liked. Sign in when you want those favorites synced and ready to share.Send your favorites privately
Your invite opens a short Match Sprint on your partner's device when eligible. They respond without seeing your individual votes.Reveal only the overlap
Mutual likes become matches. Your disagreements remain private, and the shared shortlist starts from genuine common ground.Rank finalists separately
Once you have enough matches, each person can rank the shortlist privately before the combined result is revealed.
Why separate phones matter
A shared screen changes behavior. The first person to smile, hesitate, or explain a name gives the second person information before they vote. Separate devices make each response independent and let both people participate on their own schedule.
This does not mean partners should avoid conversation. It changes the order: react independently first, then discuss the smaller set of names that already has support from both sides.
Questions to ask before inviting your partner
- Will the invite still work if one person changes phones?
- Does either partner need to pay or create an account?
- Can one person see the other's passes, or only mutual likes?
- What happens after you collect five or ten matches?
- Can you delete or disconnect the shared session?
For a broader look at those tradeoffs, see our current comparison of baby name apps for couples.